When Visibility Was a Mask: The Hidden Cost of Performing Success ft. Beth Nydick

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  • When Visibility Was a Mask: The Hidden Cost of Performing Success ft. Beth Nydick

    For me, it was a conversation with a friend of mine who is a intuitive. And he said, "My guides were telling me that I needed to shine more light." And I was And they They They said, "Be bigger. Shine more light. Be brighter." And I was like, "I'm effing bright already. Like, what do you mean?" until I really was able to like you said, feel those things, understand those things. And I took that as shining light on other people, and not just myself, because at that point in my career, I wanted to be famous. I'm going to be on all the shows, right? I'm going to be like a household name. And very quickly after that, I was like, "That's not what's important to me. The importance to me..." So, it was a shift into like, allowing other people to have that space and shining the light on them so that they can shine brighter, and they can make a bigger impact. You know, I went from wanting to be in front to being behind the camera, and that's the place I should be, and that's when I felt fulfilled. That's when I really when somebody, you know, comes back to me. I actually had this happen on Friday. A client came back to me, had an amazing interview. The uh interviewer is a household name, and they asked her after the interview who trained her, me like who did media training with you. Like, that's the biggest thing. Right? Like, that was just And that fulfilled I got the chills. That fulfilled so much more than my book or being on TV or doing these things. So, when I took the focus off of who I could be, instead of the impact I could make, because life is fleeting, right? I don't need these things anymore, but I the legacy that I want to leave is people feeling a certain way when my name comes up. Feeling a certain way when they think about the work that we've done together, and that's why I love the "Why not me? Why not you? Why not now?" kind of line that I always use. And, if you look at my testimonials, it's most of what it says. Yes. Philosophy, that came out of um not wanting to waste any more time. And not wanting to feel

    Voiceover: Welcome to From Trauma to CEO: The Psychology of Transformational Success with Fariha Barles. This is a space for cycle-breakers, leaders, and visionaries who are ready to rewrite old patterns and rise into their full potential. Each episode explores the emotional, psychological, and identity-level shifts that turn lived experience into lasting, meaningful success. And now here's your host, Fariha Barles.

    Fariha Barles: Hello, hello. Hi, Beth. I am so excited, I have to say, to be speaking with you because, from the moment that we started speaking, I we kind of got on, right? And, Oh, 100%. Kind of good vibe. Because I knew that, you know, you really got my no-sort-of-nonsense approach, and I definitely got yours, and we just we just got on. And it was so interesting because I thought that we obviously get on and we have banter, we have fun and everything, I did not What really surprised me was how we managed to connect on a deeper level and to talk about essentially trauma and Full transparency, I did not expect that. I thought, you know, our relationship is like cool and fun and all around business growth, and, of course, that's a big part of it, but I was pleasantly surprised, and just happy that we connected on much deeper layer and that's what brings us here because I've I've wanted to have you on my podcast because, not only for all the amazing work that you've done and all the achievements that uh you managed to master in such a the craziest, non-conventional way, I love that about you, by any means, and I really appreciate Like, I'm not good with small talk. Like, I'm not going to talk about the weather. Like, if you want to sit in the corner and talk about like how we how we were both bullied when we were little because we had Right, we were We had boobs, right? Like, or whatever. I'd rather have those conversations anyway, because, wait, it's just diving deeper, and then I know, because we have such limited time, that I know that you're my person to have that conversation with. And anyone that works with me really understands that right away, because I'm not about who you are saying you are. I'm much more about who you can create yourself to be, and how we can shift that identity, so you can show up like this, so you can go on live TV, so you can write the book, be on stage, be the new, "it" girl, you know, on a national place. Um, I don't think it starts with like, shoes and pocketbooks. Absolutely. And, I mean, full transparency, I made Beth wait, and I was like, I was a bit late, and I thought, "Oh my god, she's going to kill me." And then And then she's like she's just how she is always, like really cool, and I, you know, I just I just adore her, and I know that uh anybody listening will, too. So, I know that your work is, I mean, you've done so much, right? In such a short period of time, you've done so much, and you achieved so much, and you went through it all for yourself and in your own journey, as well. So, can we just uh start by maybe you saying a little bit about kind of your own like external journey and how it looked and what what was happening, and then we kind of will dive in a little bit to what was happening internally, as well? So, just like a outlook of just the kind of work that you've done, and I know you're all about visibility, and I know that your definition is of visibility is very, very aligned with mine, because you're all about not visibility as performance, but visibility as revealing yourself as you are, as who you are, and then kind of working with that to essentially create growth and success. Uh-huh. 100%. So, I grew up differently than most people that I know. And I didn't, honestly, didn't realize that until the last couple of years. So, I grew up in a house of entrepreneurs that, you know, selling lemonade at the corner was like a normal occurrence. I started my like entrepreneurial journey selling barrettes and stickers on the playground, like at lunchtime at in third grade. Because I understood, you know, the supply not so much the supply and demand, but how you can create community around an action. So, I wasn't like, I wasn't going to play soccer, right? And I was And I wasn't playing with dolls, right? I was like, "Let's let's do something." Because I have that masculine piece of me that wants to understand the psychology of the people and why they do things. You know, why they buy this versus this. How culture has such a a hold on what our buying is, like when we go into Target, the products that are in there aren't the best products, right? Somebody has a better a 2% better chip than this chip, but it's about that cultural relevance. So, that that part always really interested me. And, and growing up in, then it was really about like why the F not? You know, opening I'm from New Jersey, which you know. But, why But, it's it was about like asking for what you wanted. I grew up with my dad in the '80s in the car with the cell phone suitcase, you know, the big egg big ass cell phone, really listening to him enroll people in his idea. You know, be it a business idea, or a deal, or a partnership. I really understood how to have the conversation and enrolling people in the idea that you have for a win-win. So, when I had the opportunity to be in rooms with celebrities, or be it at a comedy show and meeting Jay Leno, or stopping Harry Connick Jr. on the street and being like, "Hey, dude. We know each other from The Tonight Show when I worked there," I really just opened my mouth and and spoke, whereas a lot of women my age were told to be cute and quiet in the corner. I was never given that messaging. My messaging was like, "What do you want to do? Let's go." So, it's really how I've lived my life, and when I work with my clients, it's much more been about like, "Why not you?" than "Why me?" Yes. And it took me a while to get to that identity um, but being a TV producer is what I did as a as a job before I had kids. I really got to see both sides—what it looks like on camera, and then what it looks like when you step off stage. So, essentially, your in initial programming around visibility what set you up to feel like, "Okay, you know, all is possible for me." So, and then not only you used that in your own journey and and in your own entrepreneurship, you decided to bring that and teach other people, essentially, how to do the same. Yeah. Well, in high school, I took a, you know, a career test, and my career test said PR. Okay. Right? It was always like using my voice. Yes. You know, I was like, you know, my gang of girls, like I was the voice, or even with my family, like I was the one that spoke at funerals. I was the one that was like the head I was speaking for my youth group when I was 16 to, you know, large crowds. It was like, "Beth can do it." And, it was like it was I'm always capable. So, as I've gotten older, right, that capability question is what bubbles up for me. Uh-huh. Not the, "I'm not good enough." It's the, "Can I actually do what I say I can do?" Yes. That's more, I think, of where I've had to prove it to myself. Years ago, I actually worked at a sleep-away camp. My kids got to go, and I worked there, you know, because sleep-away camp in America is lots and lots and lots and lots to kids to go. And, at the end of the summer, we like went around in a circle, we were talking about our word for the summer. And, I said the word "capable," and people like fell off their chairs. And, I was like, "Oh." So, I present as capable. People think I'm very capable, so I must be capable. But, it's something that I do prove to myself over and over that I can grow my capability can continue to grow. So, I think what what I really love about your approach is that, you know, whether it's visibility or capability or, you understand it not to be just a strategy. You understand it to be something that is, you know, a little bit deeper than that, because I'm sure you've come across people who, you know, you give them all the script, if you like, and then they and they know exactly what they're supposed to do, especially when it comes to visibility or asking for what they want. But, then when they're actually supposed to do that, they collapse, right? So, you know, they internally collapse. So, you understand that it And, and that's very rare, actually, you know, in this line of work, that to understand that it's not just a script, or it's not just a strategy, that it requires some other things underneath. And, I know that you had your own kind of journey when it came to, and I know that, you know, I mean we briefly talked about it, but there was a lot that shaped your identity and who you are, and that obviously continues over the years. But, I know that you had a couple of pivotal moments, if you like, that you it really sort of took you by surprise. Well, I can set the stage for our listeners. So, in 2015, I became a TV food blogger. I was on The Dr. Oz Show, I remember the first time I went on, I made a uh what was it? Avocado deviled eggs with him, and you know, there's there's video on the internet, if you want to go find it. And, I had The Chew, which was another cooking show, had come to my house and we had done a whole campaign with Vitamix um, be And, at that time, I was I was a food blogger and using visibility to grow my business. I got myself a book deal. And, between pitching the book and having to deliver the book was like 10 months. So, it was a real It was a real uh tight crunch, but again, I had a partner doing it, we were capable. But, but, like you said before, behind the scenes, everything was falling apart. Um, I had uh my older son, who thank god is good now, had some medical issues uh starting in October, November of 2017. May 1st of 2018, I was in a very bad car accident that I still feel today because I had some internal stuff going on. And, July 2nd of that year, my father-in-law was killed. He was taking out the garbage and a man in a pickup truck hit him, and he died 5 days later. So, within 8 months of all of this going on, my life was falling apart. And, when I say, and I want to caveat, like my father-in-law is somebody who I have known since I was 8 years old. He's not like my father, my husband's father. He was somebody who I had a relationship with before I even met my husband because my husband is much older than me. He'll love that I said that. But, it what that time in my life took everything out of me, and on if you go back and look at me on social media, I was killing it. Right? And, it took my it took me about 2 and a half years to come out of that. You know, I I spent a lot of time watching TV, I spent a lot of time showing up minimally, but I was sure to make look like I was showing up all the time, and I was smiling, and I was out there, and I was doing the thing. My book came out, and there was still so much going on at home. Right? There was so much I wanted to hide under the covers, but I just had this book come out, and like you said, I was in Oprah, I was, you know, Tory Burch took us on, you know, we were on we were in every magazine: Forbes, Business Insider, everything everybody wants to do, and it meant nothing on the inside. Not till I really was able to like flesh it all off. Like, I felt for a long time it was like holding onto my shoulders, you know, like just like that one little pinch. Um, and the only thing I can say, it took time. Yes, I had therapy, yes, I would talk about it with my friends, it was just the time that my body, my mind, my soul needed to heal from that, and then, I was able to talk about it. Then, I was able to share like, "This is actually what's going on." I actually wrote a chapter in a book, you know, like a compilation book that these people did um, about the experience I had of how my friends failed me at that time. And, reading it back years later, it was so raw. It was but, it was so cathartic to get it out, and to tell parts of the story, because, you know, internally, you make it mean things, and you make it you make it heavier than it is, but it really took me a long time to be able to like flesh all of it out. And, now I can talk about it, you know, before it wasn't something that I can get out.

    And, you were so good at being a kind of high-functioning, high achiever. You were so good at masking what was going on underneath and then, but then, it sounds like there was also a part of you that became resentful that not everybody saw what was happening, right? Because, it's almost like, you know, so everybody just, even, you know, people that are close to you, did you just go and buy this performance, you know, like it's it wasn't supposed to be for you, I guess. You know, maybe that was, um...

    I had a hard time, and I still kind of do to be honest, allowing people to see that piece of me. Allowing people to see, "Oh, she's not okay." Or, if like, "Oh, I'm I'm fine. I'm dealing." But, it I wasn't able, I don't think at that time I can really describe what was going on. I think it took me a long time to get the words for it um and then when I did, I had a hard time receiving all the support. Yes. Because, I also wasn't the other part of it, Fariha, is like I was never needed that stuff. I never needed that kind of support. I never needed to be seen that way because I was just capable. I like And, nothing really bad happened. This all happened in a really short amount of time, and I just don't think that I knew how to open up, get support, be honest and transparent. It took It probably took much longer than 2 years for that to actually happen. It probably took a long time.

    Yeah, because when we go through something as horrendous as that, and not just one thing, a few different things, but I also know that, you know, your father-in-law's kind of passing and, you know, being killed was, well, I mean, it's a significant trauma, right? And, I know that it meant, you know, that your that relationship meant something to you a lot more than, you know, him being your father-in-law. So, it's around this time that all the things that you've learned around being strong and independent and kind of getting things done—which, by the way, a lot of them are trauma responses, right?—like, they become a lot more kind of highlighted and stronger. So then, it like in a way, and I mean, that's a huge problem for a lot of us, and I say us because that is mainly high achievers building things based on survival, right? And, that for us it's, you know, because being strong and capable and all that, that becomes part of who we are, so anything outside of that, it's really, it brings a lot of discomfort, vulnerability, and of course, it's, you know, it's so funny because we also know that, especially when it comes to business and success and everything else, a big part of that is the ability to receive, right? You know, the And yet, you know, that's the part that, you know, but because we are again strong and capable, it constantly gets rewarded, because, you know, others feel lesser of a need to come in and intervene, and, in fact, we can do more for others than they can do for us, right? So, or that's how it feels, yeah. Yeah, and I think that's a really big lesson, and I I lost a I lost significant relationships because of it. You know, uh one of the um things that happened through that is I didn't feel supported. It took me a long time to realize that it wasn't me, it was the people I was surrounding myself with. It was my party friends, not my actual friends. But, in that mix, was somebody I had been friends with since I had been little. And, we really had to have really tough conversations, and I ended up needing to take a break from her. And, not spend time with her, and not because I had to get over what she was capable of. Yeah. You know, not everyone can give you what you need um, and I had to find that in other people. And, I had to let go of relationships that I thought were one thing, and were actually another, and learning like what that meant about me, and why I deemed those relationships the way that I deemed them. Because, I'm that kind of person, but not everybody else is that kind of person, which, well, yeah, at 45, like, I kind of should have figured out, but... Well, yeah, and also, up until then, the those kind of friendships and relationships, they worked, because you didn't need much, right? And, because you didn't need much, they worked, and uh you know, as we go through life, and especially as we go through stages of kind of growth and expansion, I always say, you know, every time we go through something big, something painful or traumatic, there is always like a gift of growth in it for us, right? And, it is on our, I know, I know. But, it I mean, you've lived it, right? I was just thought like, I feel I'm growing right now. You know, I'm I'm trying Not trying on, that's the wrong statement. I am leaning into a higher-level identity of what I've been doing. Uh-huh. And, the conversations I'm having with other women is that that are doing the same thing. It's really just uncomfortable. Because, it's not a question of like, "Should I?", "Can I?" It's a question of like, "Is this something that I actually want to envelop into who I am, versus staying static?" Like, is this enough? And, when is the next thing too much? Because, people like us want more, want to grow, get bigger, right? When is the When is it okay to stop growing, or taking a pause, because not stopping, taking a pausing growing, or is that fear keeping you small? Right, like, it's okay to not want to have $30 million business, it's okay to not have want to have a $1 million business. But, I haven't decided on where my stop is. Right? So, I And, I know a lot of people like us, it's the, you know, "It's not It's not ever enough." Like, "That was great. What's next?" versus, you know, now I try to celebrate that, but again, it's like, "Okay, I celebrated it, what's next?" Yes. Because of that keep. Yes, well, exactly. But, then the thing is, like, I mean, you know, this is what I kind of uh think about growth and I feel like the moment that we're not growing, uh, you know, and we're not expanding—and by that, I don't just mean financial growth, I actually, it could just be something completely different. You might get to, as you said, to a certain level of income or whatever and you're happy, but you want to grow, I don't know, in your relationship with yourself, with your whatever, right? But, the moment that we stop growing, I think, that's game over, really. That's what I think, because as human beings, we are we come on this earth physically we're constantly growing until there's no more growth, and then that's when we, you know, die, right? So, I'm like a I'm physically shrinking now. So, it's impacting, as well. Yes, yeah, we're so focused on business growth. You know, as I've gotten older, and as my joints have hurt more, right, now it's physical. It's growth in my in my health, in my relationships. I was actually talking uh to a friend of mine who's been very successful in marketing and business, and she was like, "I just got back my report. I'm My body's 22 years old." And, she's like 40. And, I was like, "Ooh." 22 on the inside. That growth into making eating well, exercising, drinking water a habit in my life is growth, as well. Um, and having those conversations, growing my relationships. Like, I have a like you, I know that I can call you if I need anything, you know, you'd fly, not like you'd fly across the ocean, but if I really know, if I really needed something, you probably would, to be honest. That's how I feel about you, as well. I would, I'm looking to grow more in-person relationships because I gave those up years ago, and my relationships are online, and I I know that for me to grow in the space that I want to be, I need more physical interaction. Like, I went and played Mahjong last night with girls half my age, it was so fun. That sounds a lot of fun, to be honest. It was really fun. So, you see, you know, like when we're talking about growth, the problem is we only kind of learned or we were only sort of programmed in one type of growth. And, that's why it becomes a little bit challenging when we get to a certain stage, and we're like, "Okay, well, this is all great, but how am I, I guess, not fully fulfilled?" Or, "What How good can it get? How much more can I enjoyment, and joy, and desire, and all of that can I have?" And, I think that's the part, especially, especially, I would say with women, that's not, that has not been kind of, um... well, we haven't been taught it, to say the least.

    So, I know that, you know, obviously, you've kind of you've shared a little bit about your journey. I'm really curious to know, though, how did that uh experience of, you know, that loss, but it wasn't just a loss, it was a loss, and then also like losing a grieving parts of yourself where you had to now feel a lot of pain and a lot of loss, and vulnerability, and then perhaps it's something that, you know, was not necessarily, you were not in touch with before, because you didn't need to be. How do you think that um impacted your sort of views on, well, not just, I mean, life is a very big word, right? But, just on uh how we show up in life. How we show up as like kind of people, as leaders, as, you know, uh you know, how we take up space, how we show up in rooms.

    For me, it was a conversation with a friend of mine who is a intuitive. And he said, "My guides were telling me that I needed to shine more light." And I was And they They They said, "Be bigger. Shine more light. Be brighter." And I was like, "I'm effing bright already. Like, what do you mean?" until I really was able to like you said, feel those things, understand those things. And I took that as shining light on other people, and not just myself, because at that point in my career, I wanted to be famous. I'm going to be on all the shows, right? I'm going to be like a household name. And very quickly after that, I was like, "That's not what's important to me. The importance to me..." So, it was a shift into like, allowing other people to have that space and shining the light on them so that they can shine brighter, and they can make a bigger impact. You know, I went from wanting to be in front to being behind the camera, and that's the place I should be, and that's when I felt fulfilled. That's when I really when somebody, you know, comes back to me. I actually had this happen on Friday. A client came back to me, had an amazing interview. The uh interviewer is a household name, and they asked her after the interview who trained her, me like who did media training with you. Like, that's the biggest thing. Right? Like, that was just And that fulfilled I got the chills. That fulfilled so much more than my book or being on TV or doing these things. So, when I took the focus off of who I could be, instead of the impact I could make, because life is fleeting, right? I don't need these things anymore, but I the legacy that I want to leave is people feeling a certain way when my name comes up. Feeling a certain way when they think about the work that we've done together, and that's why I love the "Why not me? Why not you? Why not now?" kind of line that I always use. And, if you look at my testimonials, it's most of what it says. Yes. Philosophy, that came out of um not wanting to waste any more time. And not wanting to feel

    You are a perfect example of everything I talk about, you know, moving from moving from trauma-led success, which is, you know, what what was happening, and what to reparative success. You know, like, that there is still success, you still have your edge, God knows you do, and, you know, you still kind of successful, you still, but it is coming from a different place. It's not coming uh and, of course, this process is ongoing, and we all constantly grow, as you know, right? But, it is not coming from a place of urgency, survival, proving yourself, you know, uh leading to burnout. It's coming from a place of joy, alignment, wanting to thrive, and just, you know, seeing how uh as you said, your thing is "Why not you?" My thing is, "How good can life get?" Right? You know, so it's just a amazing example. And, it's so funny because when we were talking about just it's so funny, because earlier today, I was recording an episode with uh Anna, right? Uh-huh. And, and when the uh when the episode finished, uh we both said, "Okay, I think we need to take a picture because Beth said, 'take a picture.'" And then, we took a picture and she said, "Beth would be so proud." Hey, but that makes me so happy, and that's, you know, when people being able to use, you know, my genius for things that they want to accomplish, like being like a like a little piece of it. But, you know, what I Can I make a connection? Because I hadn't thought about this before. Please, yes. Um so, pre-COVID, I was looking for a different way to give back. You know, I I can write a check for a dinner, for a charity, I can go to a charity day, but I met this woman on a bus who got me into being a interim foster mom. So, in, I think, it's 15 states right now, if you have a baby, and you don't know if you if you want to keep it, you have 3 days to make that decision, and there's a company, the one that's near me is called Open Arms Adoption that comes in and helps you. So, essentially, I get 1 to 2-day-old babies in my house. Oh, wow. Yeah. And, like, for, for I've had babies for a day, I've had babies for 3 weeks um, when my kids were home, it was really like, be like, "You know what? This is what happens." And, all they did was love it, you know, they would be like, "Oh, there's a baby in the house," with like a huge smile on their face. But, it was really because I wanted to be a piece of that baby's journey, that mom's journey, because those babies got to go to moms who couldn't have their own, who had been through the IVF, and the miscarriages, and all the horrendous things you have to go through if you're having trouble having a child, and I knew in 3 days, oh, I got the chills again, in 3 days, that this family was going to be a full family. They were going to have children. I actually got to hand a couple their daughter in my living room one time. Oh. And, it was like and I would document the whole thing, so that they would have pictures of the first couple of days of their child's life. And, it was really, it fulfilled me in a space that I was like, able to give back to my community, but I was able to be like a happy, safe place in that journey. And, it's kind of like what I'm doing with my clients today. Like, they come out as babies not knowing how media works and what to do, and by the time they leave my leave my space, or leave my house, right, they have um everything they need to to be successful. Um, But most importantly, they come out with the uh foundation, or that you created, the foundation of safety, because a lot of the things that you're doing is around, again, visibility and putting yourself out there, and that is precisely where everything starts to get dysregulated in us, right? Every That's a threat, essentially, um for us individually, but also intergenerationally and, you know, like, so you're actually holding that safe space and training um your students, but, you know, the people that work with you, not just training them as people, but training their nervous system to register and really document that safety within their bodies. So when they go out, they have a frame, uh, and they have a template. And, I think that is the, literally, for me, that's the core of what you do, and also, why you're successful in, in doing that. Because, strategy, yes, and to especially these days, information is so, so accessible. I keep saying that because it's true, because of AI, yeah. but, but, and then it's just getting, you know, I mean, I say worse, better, I don't know, but it's getting, you know, more and more easier to access everything, right? But, it's that's why, like, your work and what you do is always going to be in demand and it's always going to stand out, because it is about creating that safety and training people to essentially internalize and embody that safety, but also make it their own, so when they go out, that visibility becomes part of their embodiment, becomes part of their, essentially, identity. It's not a way that I've ever looked at it, and I really appreciate that, because I don't always acknowledge that piece of me. Like, I don't know if I feel unsafe a lot. I think of it as confidence, but, I think, now that I think, you are correct, obviously. Um, because now as I think about clients, it is them feeling safe to be able to have the conversation with me, um while knowing that I'm going to make them do the hard thing. Yeah. They can do it, because they have me in their corner, and I, I did say this on another podcast recently, like AI can um, can replace the strategy, right, can give you your own strategy, but, the 25 years of media, the being in digital for 15 of those, like, that innate knowledge is not in AI. And, somebody watching you and having a conversation with you and prepping you for being on camera is nothing AI can ever do. They're trying to create that. I know that I'll always have a job, because every people always need to have that support of being on camera. Because they need, they need your energy, they need, what, this what actually creates that safety for them is you, you've embodied it first. So you show them what it's like to be visible and not being threatened, right? So, you already have that, yeah, so you already have that, and then, you so it's your energy, it's not the things, necessarily, that you teach, so that's why I always say, you can create anybody that to teach the things that I'm teaching, although, you know, my IP is quite unique, if I say so myself, Very much. but, but, still, nevertheless, nobody's going to be me, nobody's going to have that lived experiences of that lived traumas and the ways that we overcome them, the ways that we had to sort of compromise, you know, it's a lot that you go through to come the other end, and then to start teaching others about how to do it. So, it's not about strategy, it's about strategy's great, but it's about who you are. And, I've always said, you know, like I said, if I'm ever going to sort of get, I mean, at some point, I might, me too, uh, I was like, Beth is my person, I'm not going to go to anybody else when it comes to the PR things, or any, not PR, but like, anything to do with putting, yeah, putting myself completely out there on, on, uh, you know, a different level, then Beth is my person. It's time, it's time, okay. Everyone listening, DM Fariha that it's time, just write, "It's time." But, if you do that, everyone listening, if you send her, if you send her a DM that says, "It's time," I will send you something special, just people, just something that I share on podcasts only, that I don't talk about, but, I want us to like, give Fariha a little like, "it's time" because, it's always time. It's always, there's always space. And, right now, if you have momentum, if you have energy, and you have, and you're growing an audience, that's where success really comes from, in for our businesses, for our financial, but, I know for you, the most people, more people you can touch, the more people you can support, the more uh that you are doing what you were put here to do. So, I appreciate it. So, let's torture her a little bit, guys. For sure. I mean, you know, don't challenge people, because I, in my experience, that people do that. I do it all the time. So funny. But, yeah, it's just, you know, this is just also to say, oh my god, I'm just like, looking at the time. Also, honestly, every time I speak with you, I could just go on and on, and we always we're always on schedule, but, I mean, I would definitely love to have you again, because, you know, I can never get enough of you. Ah. But, I know that you have another commitment now, so, I will uh conclude this. But, you know, for anybody that's listening, where can they find you? How can they kind of connect with you? Because, honestly, you have to just connect with her, because You're so sweet. I appreciate you so much. Yeah, so, after you go to Instagram and torture Fariha a little bit, come follow me, DM me the word, "She's in," and I'll send everyone something special. You can find me on every platform at Beth Nydick, that's n-y-d-i-c-k, like New York Dick. Um, but, I just want to finish up with saying this one thing. We all create our own possibility of success. And, the stories we tell ourselves are the things that are in our way. It's not finding the right VA, or the right message, or the right x. It's finding the right space in you to be able to come forward and tell people what you're about, who you are, and why they should listen. And, when you can create that possibility for yourself, you can create that possibility for your business, and for your life. So, I ask you to create that possibility and just let us enjoy the journey as we watch you on your way. Amazing, and also, get Beth to help you out through that process, because nobody is better than her. Thanks, babe. All right, my love. Well, it was amazing having you, and uh I will definitely, definitely speak with you because, you know, this was kind of really more of an introductory session, I feel like we can do another episode dive so much deeper. I will I'm going to go make another appointment and we'll talk soon. I adore you. All right, my dear. Thank you so much. Take care. Bye. Bye-bye.

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Episode Summary

In this episode of From Trauma to CEO, Farya Barlas is joined by visibility and media expert Beth Nydick for an honest conversation about success, identity, and what it truly means to be seen. Beth shares how personal loss, grief, and life's unexpected challenges transformed her understanding of visibility, shifting her focus from seeking recognition to creating meaningful impact. Together, they explore why authentic leadership begins with feeling safe enough to show up as yourself and how healing, personal growth, and self-awareness create the foundation for sustainable success.

What You'll Learn

  • Why true visibility is about revealing your authentic self rather than performing for approval or external validation.

  • How unresolved grief, trauma, and survival patterns can shape leadership, confidence, and the way you show up in your business.

  • Why creating psychological safety is essential for building confidence, embracing opportunities, and stepping into greater visibility.

  • How shifting your focus from personal recognition to serving others can lead to greater fulfillment and long-term success.

  • Why growth is not only measured by financial achievements, but also by stronger relationships, improved well-being, and a deeper sense of purpose.

Guest Bio:

Beth Nydick is a media strategist and former national television producer who helps accomplished founders turn attention into authority, influence, and revenue.

After more than two decades behind the scenes in television, she developed a deep understanding of how visibility actually works, and why being great at what you do isn’t enough to be recognised for it. Today, she works with founders who are already visible but under-leveraged, helping them step out of the digital echo chamber and become nationally recognised authorities.

Through her advisory work and the Mic to Millions™ system, Beth helps clients transform podcasts, media appearances, and speaking opportunities into strategic business assets that drive positioning, pipeline, and high-value opportunities.

In addition to advising founders on influence and positioning, she develops and produces founder-led television shows and media platforms designed to expand reach, shape perception, and open doors at a national level.

If you are curious about Beth's work, check out her free 90-minute live masterclass & learn the exact producer-backed system that turns a single appearance into booked clients. 

Masterclass: https://program.bethnydick.com/vip-workshop

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bethnydick

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The Method is Farya’s signature 12-week group programme. Four layers of deep, structured work designed to change the architecture underneath income, visibility, and leadership — so the nervous system can hold what capability has already earned the right to receive.

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